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Since You Asked

Since You Asked
Abnormal not to have sexual feelings?
 
Q What, if anything, does the Church say about asexuality? I consider myself to be an asexual person. I am 19 and have never once had a sexual urge, and I don't see it as a problem. I believe I could get through life happily without having sex at all. I talked about it with a psychologist and I'm comfortable with who I am and what I feel, but my parents still somehow think it is a sin. How could not wanting sex be a sin? Please help me.
- Ruth
 
A

I think you're O.K. and not in sin. I also think the jury's still out, so to speak. You're 19, your life--sexual and otherwise--has just begun. You may meet someone who "activates" your sexual impulses. You may not. I personally think if you're happy, all is well. I would have thought the psychologist might have referred you to an M.D., to get a measure on hormone levels. I'm no expert, but it seems possible that they could be low and can be measured. In general, the Church sees that you are not in control of this arena and it can not be held against you as sinful.

On the other hand, I do want to be sure that you don't have a negative attitude toward sex. I'm willing to grant that "not wanting sex" is not a sin. But you need to realize that "wanting sex" is not necessarily sinful, by contrast.

- Carol Ann