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In an earlier question, you said that if there are no plans for a marriage than any and all sexual activity is wrong. Well, I am young and I don't know who or when I will get married. What is so wrong with kissing my boyfriend even if we are not thinking about marriage? I can't predict the future, so how could I know if i will marry this guy? |
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- Jeannine |
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Dear Jeannine,
I didn't answer your last question, but I suspect that the person who did didn't mean kissing was absolutely out of the question. Of course, I don't know how old you are nor do I know the age of your boyfriend. (This answer's so late that you may be engaged by now!)
I do know that kissing doesn't stand alone in the arsenal of sexually charged behaviors. It often leads to other things--and that's the challenge you face. "Thinking about marriage" doesn't guarantee that marriage will follow. You can think about it in a dreamy sense or in a far-away, remote possibility kind of way. If it never seems likely in this lifetime, your kisses are wasted--and ill-advised. If it's possible in the next couple of years, you can kiss and still avoid the steamy scenes so common in dramatic films. After all, you're not making a movie. You're expressing affection for someone with whom you may choose to enter a holy and blessed marriage some day. |
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- Carol Ann |
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