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It is not ours to know who's going to heaven and who's going to hell. God is our judge.
It would be a very poor decision to have sex with your boyfriend. You can find many answers on this Web site that speak to that question. Just thinking about it is, in itself, not such a good practice, although thoughts of sex float in and out regardless of our efforts to exclude them, I know. If you encourage the kind of daydreaming that involves sex with your boyfriend, you are making a poor choice, one that may lead to following your thoughts into action. I would advise against encouraging these thoughts.
Loving your boyfriend really should DIScourage you from having sex with him. It won't be good for him either, so it isn't a good way to express your love.
Sex outside marriage is against the commandments. A life lived outside the law of God isn't heading for heaven. But here you are, consulting a Catholic Web site, asking about this, when it's a thought, not yet a deed. You don't seem to me to be an evil person at all, much less one headed straight for hell.
Please consider all the ramifications of sex for you, though, and make good and loving choices for yourself, for your boyfriend and for the baby that could result from what you mistakenly see as a way to express your love at this early age--and time before marriage. |